Author, speaker and former ESPN Producer Jason Romano’s dad took him to a football game when Jason was 10 years old.
It was the first time Jason realized his dad was an alcoholic. Jason tells the painful story of growing up with an addicted parent, how he battled for the relationship and how he finally learned how to forgive.
Our past can haunt our present and future as people and leaders unless we’re willing to deal with it.
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3 Insights from This Episode
1. Creating barriers doesn’t mean hope is lost
Anyone close to an addict has struggled with not wanting to give up hope that the person can change. That desire can cause continuous hurt and disappointment, but there comes a time when you have to protect yourself from the abuse. Does it mean you’ve given up on your loved one? Absolutely not. But barriers are a very healthy thing and can actually do more good for everyone over time.
2. Forgiveness and Reconciliation are two different things
Choosing to forgive doesn’t mean you’re letting someone off the hook for hurting you. Forgiveness is an instant choice that actually frees you, not them.
Reconciliation involves both parties and is the harder, slower process that, if able to happen at all, takes time.
3. Acknowledge the pain then find empathy for what’s broken
The first way to find healing is to allow yourself to feel the pain rather than pretend it doesn’t exist. Remove the mask and work through the hurt.
Once you’ve recognized your feelings, consider what the other person is going through. Finding a place of empathy for their brokenness will move your heart towards forgiveness.
Quotes from This Episode
I had no model of what it was like to be a man. – @JasonRomano
You try to find a common ground amidst the dysfunction that is existing. – @JasonRomano
There’s a huge difference in fighting with and fighting for. – @cnieuwhof
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